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Instructor: Scott D. Brand & Carol Barkes


As a mediator, there are significantly different considerations when mediating with couples and families with a history of domestic violence. Domestic Violence doesn't end when the relationship is over, DV often continues long after the relationship has expired as a continued form of power and control.


How a mediator sets up mediation and engages in the negotiation process in these situations can either help or hinder the parties' ability to overcome an impasse. With the right tools a mediator can empower the parties to instead walk away with a safe, efficient and specific mediated agreement. Considerations that impact co-parenting (if there are minor children), the safety of the victim(s), or the ability to come to a mediated agreement without jeopardizing safety can have lasting and long term effects otherwise.


Lacking the right tools to navigate these mediations and choosing to leave agreements vague can often result in extensive and ongoing litigation and legal battles for the involved parties. If the mediation process lacks boundaries established to protect all parties, and there are not consequences established with enforcement built into very specific parenting plans and mediated agreements, the parties potentially risk greater break down and exposure to worsening violence over time.


Doing what you can as a mediator to help DV parties avoid further trauma starts with a strong, assertive, and well informed mediator that is prepared to consider and negotiate with the parties to create a safe, well negotiated and specific mediated agreement. 


Having been a Wilderness Emergency Medical Technician and additionally an Executive Director at a domestic violence & crisis agency prior to becoming a mediator, I have learned that individualized training in navigating crisis especially in domestic violence is a crucial skill-set needed in mediating family law conflicts. I developed this domestic violence certification with co-instructor Carol Barkes as a specialized course and curriculum for mediators. Focusing on trauma-informed practices and negotiation techniques, this training helps create safety for high-conflict parties entering mediation, and educates mediators in how to successfully collaborate and negotiate with high-conflict individuals in an often toxic and trauma-bonded perpetrator/victim relationship, and in navigating the landscape around abuse with the emotional and hostile behavior that can sometimes crop up in the mediation process.


Identifying & Recognizing Signs of Domestic Violence ♦ Domestic Violence - A Judge’s Perspective ♦ Domestic Violence Assessment Tools ♦ Making Mediation Safe ♦ Roles & Responsibilities of the Screener ♦ How Children are Affected by Domestic Violence ♦ Cultural Concerns ♦ Mediation with Protection Orders and No Contact Orders in Place ♦ Dealing with Triggers After Domestic Violence ♦ Recognizing and Addressing Escalation ♦ Domestic Violence Sensitive Language ♦ Parenting Plan Consideration and Brainstorming where Domestic Violence is present ♦ Boundaries around Mediation with Domestic Violence ♦ Self Care for Mediators after working high-conflict cases ♦ and more!


Anyone who mediates cases potentially involving domestic violence or parties in high-conflict, with or without children, in both civil and criminal domestic violence cases. This certification also includes anyone seeking more information to help them better understand and relate to those affected by domestic violence.


In recognizing that often training is completed in addition to a regular work load for the individual choosing to enroll, we have evening and weekend trainings with enrollment happening every few months. Also, if you need to miss a portion of class you are enrolled in, you can make that missed class up, by attending the same day in a future enrollment to complete your certification. 

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Men & Young Men wishing to become to better at thinking critically, navigating and reducing conflict in their lives & finding authentic solutions that encourages growth in themselves and in improving their interpersonal relationships with others - to build a meaningful, autonomous & solutions focused future. 



Virtual Coaching / Mentoring - Tailored to meed individual and specific needs Conflict Resolution ♦ Empowering the outcome ♦ Focusing on Solutions when faced with problems ♦ Skill building with a focus on Logic and Reasoning - Critical Thinking  Asking clarifying questions to find the best solution  Creating and maintaining healthy relationships  Learning to live authentically (co-dependency/people pleasing/power & control)  Establishing & learning to identify authentic principles and implement them help you succeed.

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When collaborating with Scott for your next speaking engagement, we will first schedule a discovery call to help clarify your objectives, the message you hope to have Scott convey, and to understand your audiences pain points, needs and goals. In our discovery call we will research and identify an outline of the needs of your organization or audience to then determine the message that your audience is most likely to connect to and how Scott's expertise and knowledge can help translate this message into action and transformation for attendees. In understanding the motivating factors, public events can have a great impact on individuals.

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  • Do you want to focus on the problem or the solution? Using strategic critical thinking to stay focused on the solutions for future outcomes and results. 

  • How does one fully learn how to navigate crisis? You are only as good as your last training. When we are backed into a corner we will revert to what is comfortable. Stepping out of our comfort zone consistently  creates creativity in our ability to brainstorm and navigate rationally in times of crisis.

  • How do we focus on the positive when navigating conflict and unknowns? In life we all have that moment of finding the critical path forward when faced with crisis. Learn how hope can drive conflict towards the best possible solution to a seemingly impossible situation.

  • How do you create a mindset that empowers you to move forward and not live in the past? Learning to think outside of the box when generating solutions empowers individuals to determine the best outcome for them. There is no right or wrong way for everyone, it's about finding the right solution for you to help you move forward and not live in the past. 

  • How to avoid irreversible damages through strategic conflict resolution? Getting clarity and understanding through strategic and active listening helps position individuals for successful conflict resolution.

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